So, is it a date?

Hmm..how many of you thought on reading the caption that I'm probably talking about a Dinner or Lunch date? I don't blame you if you were expecting that because lately I have been so preoccupied that I'm sure all my friends are longing to have atleast some sort of a Farewell date or something we can set up..and lousy ol' me has to seriously work on that.

With further regrets to my fiance (hubby actually) who reads this - it wasn't about a romantic date for us either.

I expect the least of you to think I was referring to a date (khajoor/tamar) at this point; although, I know if I captioned such an entry in Ramadhan, a Khajoor is exactly what you'd all think about - especially if you're craving to break your fast soon! (lol)

Ah, but I'm sure that the majority of you must be thinking I'm probably talking about - my Wedding date - but it's not that either! I want to pause here to say - its fascinating our lives are so predictable after getting engaged: it's the same cycle everyone goes through, and I never get why we have the same set of questions to ask when making small talk:

After getting engaged:

"So when's the Big day? Is your wedding date fixed yet?"

(Umm, I JUST got engaged..let me get the hang of this culture shock first dear!)

After eventually getting married:

"So when are we hearing good news" *with a teasing wink*

(I JUST got married - atleast give it nine months, auntyji!)

After having your 1st child:

"So when are you having your second one?" (Argh!)

After the 1st child turns a yr old:

"Aww, time flies so quick..So yeah, when are you having your second one?" (Aaaaah!)

After the 1st child turns 2 yrs old:

"So what school are you planning to send your child too?" (Umm....)

And then you meet them middle of the same year:

"Oh you havnt put him into school yet? My blah-blah-blah had the same problem and she did blah-blah-blah" (Aaaahhh!!)

Okay so we've all heard these and probably said alot of these to others too - but what takes the cake is, right when you're dressed as Bride and Groom and someone comes up to the stage and says aloud "Awwww, you were sooooooooo little when I last saw you. You played in my lap when you were so small! And now you've grown so big - getting married!" (making it sound like we probably grew up in a day and decided to get married the 2nd day....lol)

So, although my wedding's just round the corner, the date I was thinking around, had nothing to do with any of the above.

Sometimes, some supposedly-insignificant dates just bring back memories as and when they pass by. Nope, not the usual celebrated dates like Birthdays and Anniversaries, etc.. I was just reminiscing on the 13th of April 2008, how exactly a year back, I had dislocated my right elbow. I remember the date ~ I don't know why, but I do; the date on which my sister moved back to the US, the date on which I started my high protein low carb diet some 3 yrs back; the date I received some great SMS or Email from friends or family..and sometimes, I just struggle to save very old SMS' just to keep track of the date of something I just don't want to let go of. And on changing phones, feel dismay of losing the 'dates' on them.

Don't know if this is normal (and I also know it will sound abnormal to those who have their reminders set up for practically everything they do) But for me..it isn't just a date. It's a lot more than that.

So what date did you think I was talking about?

Might be, I missed out on your thoughts...or maybe, I just caught you in the right place ;)

Signing out,

Sadaf Z (with the little big world up in her head - all cluttered up!)